After Life Ideas - Amber Fillerup Clark

Since sharing that I’ve left the Mormon church – I’ve realized what number of of you might be in related conditions. For me, one of many scariest ideas was what to do with the after life beliefs I had beforehand held.. And I needed to share a few of my ideas from the final yr or so with you in case it occurs to assist anybody or spark any new concepts for your self. This can be a very susceptible subject and one which in actuality, nobody is “proper” about as a result of none of us truly know for certain. We will all maintain beliefs and think about these however none of us can inform the opposite they’re mistaken, solely that they don’t share the identical perception.

As numerous you already know, the mormon church believes that households may be collectively endlessly. I’d say it is among the predominant pillars of the church is this concept of everlasting households. And if you depart mormonism you do type go, holy crap wait is it true or not? I believe what we consider ought to actually simply be what brings us probably the most peace whereas on earth. Not in an insensitive manner, however in a really literal manner, none of us will care if what we believed wasn’t true as soon as we’re useless, as a result of… we will likely be useless. So we simply have to have peace and luxury right here and now. I completely see how the concept of everlasting households is a implausible perception that may convey a lot peace to those that have suffered loss. I truly suppose it’s a very wholesome perception to hold with you so long as folks don’t lean on it as a crutch when being there for others grieving (not permitting them to correctly grieve as a result of you’ll “see them once more” so why are you continue to so unhappy sort of factor)

I additionally actually don’t consider that you simply even have to essentially be non secular in an effort to consider that you will notice family members once more in a heaven or in one other universe or no matter .. I believe that’s as believable as us ending up right here within the first place is. So I at the start don’t suppose that perception must be thrown out when leaving faith if that perception nonetheless holds worth for you. There are not any guidelines with regards to these things, you are able to do it nevertheless you need.

I used to suppose it was unhappy when folks didn’t consider in afterlife – I now don’t suppose it’s unhappy in any respect, I believe it’s a really realist and sensible outlook and for some the consolation blanket of afterlife isn’t obligatory. And I may also see how that may make folks actually absorb what we get to have right here on earth extra, embracing the finality as soon as it’s carried out. I believe for me I’ve to cling onto one thing as a result of I believe if I ever misplaced a baby or David I don’t suppose I may survive with out that thought.. whether or not it’s we bounce to a different universe and proceed on with life however with a brand new storyline or we reincarnate or we’re up in heaven having a flowery lil celebration.

Rosie not too long ago introduced up reincarnation and talked about how she actually likes that concept. And was increasing on the place she would ideally wish to go .. however she stated any animal or human simply not an fish 🙂 and I informed her I believe if in case you have that request the universe could make that occur! I believe there are numerous totally different choices for afterlife and no matter makes somebody really feel peaceable, superb. The principle factor for me when instructing my children is simply to show them that nobody is “mistaken” .. we are able to all be open minded to different’s concepts and so long as they aren’t harming others we are able to respect these beliefs and share ours as effectively. Our beliefs may also shift and alter – as we hearken to others we would hear one thing we actually love that we need to convey into our personal perception system. Actually, nothing is everlasting.

As numerous you already know, David’s brother handed away about 6 years in the past, after which shortly after his dad handed. After which only recently his mother. Now we have additionally had each of my grandpa’s die within the final decade or so. After which after all Chauncey :(. Now we have been lucky to be left with numerous actually particular issues of theirs. I’ve so lots of my grandpa’s work and I maintain them on show within the house and in addition in a room upstairs the place I paint now. I do know this may sound cooky however I’m 100% satisfied that the work maintain power that I merely can’t clarify in any manner aside from to say I completely really feel it and really feel like I’ve weirdly gotten to know him extra or really feel near him via the work. I even have felt his power pushing me creatively the previous yr.. It has felt so palpable for me that it actually acquired me excited about power on the whole. We all know that power can’t be destroyed.. And we all know that we are able to *really feel* power each good and dangerous and every part in between. We all know it’s there. I began to actually love the concept that after we die we depart behind all of our power. Particularly in issues like artwork or something we put power into (journals, prepare dinner books that had been used, clothes, and so on).. Perhaps because of this artwork has such worth to sure folks and to not others. Perhaps we do have artwork/aesthetic preferences after all however perhaps we additionally love the power that comes with it.

I actually consider that we not solely depart behind power however that folks can select to just accept the power or not. For instance after we really feel dangerous power that doesn’t imply it routinely begins seeping into us.. We both let it are available or not. So I began like a yr in the past actively making an attempt to “settle for” the power left behind by our family members who’ve left. Qualities about them that I actually beloved and the eagerness they’d for the issues we now have in our houses and hoping to let a few of that zeal enter my realm. It would sound foolish however I really feel like I’ve began to have deeper relationships with them even after they’re gone – like I’m able to get to know them. Which for me has been actually pretty as a result of when David and I acquired married, his mother and pa had been on their mission in Costa Rica. Then after they acquired again, we had been dwelling in NYC and so they weren’t house for lengthy earlier than leaving on a second mission to Patagonia. In Patagonia is the place David’s dad discovered he had a mind tumor, which he died from shortly after coming house. I at all times really feel so emotional that I by no means acquired to get to know him extra, as a result of he actually simply appears so outstanding and so cool. Being open to this concept of accepting his power – the power he left behind in his movie digicam that david now makes use of, the rocks he discovered whereas touring the world as a geologist, the books he learn, the photographs he took. He was so inventive and adventurous and free spirited and I like having the ability to soak all that up. And David’s mother was sooooo angelic and sort and affected person and inventive and such an incredible painter. I’m hoping to get a few of her portray provides so I can use these and once more hopefully have a few of her loveliness rub off on me. Ehren David’s brother was at all times thrifting and being inventive and was so enthusiastic – he beloved a great thrifted discover and I’ve completely accepted all of his treasure searching power and love to have a look at the items he gave us that we’ve on show in our house… together with so many different issues from every particular person. So many superb qualities we are able to tackle from our family members who’ve left us it’s so particular.

This has additionally made me understand the significance of simply placing power into issues that may be left behind for our family members. How superb to have power stuffed objects that they’ll then settle for all of our fantastic qualities and use them all through their lives.